What has life
taught you lately?
It’s a New
Year. A new start. A time for looking at the future with the hope
and putting the past behind you. I
literally counted down the days to 2016 with this very notion in mind. I was done with 2015. My mom passed away in her sleep last
February and I spent the entire year trying to grieve while raising two little
boys, managing her estate in a different country and tackle going back to work. I’m not afraid to admit that I went through a tremendous amount of personal struggle. When
you go through something like this, it makes the bumps in the road feel ten
times worse and blessings hard to appreciate.
After losing my own mother, I just wanted to be the best mom that I could be to my kids, but a lot of the time I was impatient and short with them. When I sought some help from my doctor, some of the best advice she gave me was “stop trying to be a perfect mom and focus on being a good enough mom”.
And what about being a good wife? A partner for my hubby? I know I wasn’t easy to live with this year, and I thank my husband for
being my rock. I couldn’t have done it
without him. And of course, the never ending love and support from my friends. Thank you!
Yesterday, I was a guest host on a group called “Tuesday Coffee
Chat” on Instagram. It’s a loop of mommas
who ask questions and invite other mommas to answer and offer advice. With a lot of consideration, I finally settled on a question to reflect on the past year.
My question: “What
has life taught you lately?”
I was so touched
by the amount of heart-felt advice. It was so hard to pick out of the 45 comments that I received but the advice was so beautiful that I had to share them on my blog today. Here they are:
Life has taught
me to slow down. I had two weeks off for winter break and was able to actually
look and listen to the people in my life, its such a better way to live! I’m
working on being present, wherever I’m at! @thoreau.yourself.together
has taught me patience. I am so quick to want to rush everything. I kind of
lost the beauty of soaking in a moment and working hard for something, for
weeks, and then seeing results. I somehow got in a mind set that things should
happen over night. Totally unrealistic. I’m learning to just be okay with where
I’m at, keep working, and soaking in everything I can! @basically.beck
Life has taught me to never take anything for granted. @quintessentialmiss
taught me to let things go. I’m always holding my family up to expectations
that they never reach and I get let down. I need to just let go of expectations
all around. It makes life more enjoyable. @jessicaglaze
taught me to focus more inward. It’s not about the world, it’s about my small
family and my tight group of friends. @busytoddler
comparing myself to others! @shire_mama
taught me to enjoy the everyday moments and to try to let go and not sweat the
small stuff….of course easier said than done! As a blogger, it’s hard not to
want to take pics of everything. But two quotes stick in my mind: “The
days are long but the years are short” and “Enjoy the little things
for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things.”
I have the
same sort of revelation. Don’t stress the small stuff, it’s not worth it. Enjoy
your family and friends as much as possible. You can’t buy time!
taught me the time helps with the grieving process. @jasminelgable
That I need to
stop trying to impress other people and just be myself. There is not way to
please everyone and I shouldn’t need to. This year I want to live my life
remembering that! @almostindianwife
taught me so many things in 2015 and getting older lol. The world keeps moving.
No matter what stage you’re in, it keeps moving. Sometimes when you’re
struggling and you see others just happy and moving forward, it can be so hard
to relate to them. Not to mention, I’ve leaned as you get older, your family
becomes more important than anyone or anything. What I use to do for everyone
else (friends and family), I can no longer do because I have a family of my own
and my family comes first, other than God. @alexandra.e_3
I never ask for
help until its too late and end up bitter and burnt out. This year definitely
taught me to have the humility to ask for help, and its been amazing how things
that not everything has to be perfect for life to be awesome and I’m learning
to let go of my set preconceived ideas for what happy is. @thereggiochild
I am in charge
of my own happiness. @_jadencoal_
That happiness isn’t
wrapped up in things or success but the people you spend your time with.
Life has taught
me that I’m not Superwoman and I can’t do it all. I have to know my limits. And
it’s just as strengthening to know my limits as it is to believe I have none. @saradearblog
So what has life taught me this year? All of the above. Be kind. Be patient. Slow Down. Enjoy the little things. Find joy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Live in the moment. Ask for help. Be generous. Love.
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