I have spent today writing this post in my head and with a little encouragement from some fellow blogger friends, it’s finally coming to fruition… with the help of a glass of wine. With the state of the world today, all the hate and the violence, why do we treat each other so poorly? What happened to simple kindness? Common courtesy? Social media has become a breeding ground that brings out the absolute worst in people and today I’m going to take a moment to rant about it…
The Dirty Game of Instagram
I LOVE Instagram, it has been an amazing social media outlet for me and I’ve made countless friends and connections that I wouldn’t have made anywhere else. The majority of people use Instagram as a tool to share photos among friends. However, there are some of us that use it to help promote our businesses or blogs and gaining followers is helpful to getting noticed. But it’s a DIRTY BUSINESS. Many people are just out to get ahead and they don’t care about feelings or who they steam roll over to get one more follow. It’s disgusting. I’m putting the niceties aside and I’m drawing attention to another side of Instagram, one that the general public may not know but a blogger like myself knows all to well.
The 7 People I loathe on Instagram
Did you know you can buy followers? Did you also know that there is an app that people pay for where a “bot” will scan Instagram, follow you, and then unfollow you as soon as you reciprocate? Most people are none the wiser and will continue to follow that person. It’s just a dirty way to get ahead. There are better ways to gain followers (see my previous post). I’m totally a victim of this too. Someone with an awesome Instagram will follow me, I check them out and think they are great so I follow them back. Then the next day, the bot has let me loose. It just leaves me with nothing but a bad taste in my mouth for this person. You’re a follower.
Stemming from the follower is The Fake. That person who tries to be your best friend, they like all your photos, comment on them with the kindest remarks, start following you then the next day they unfollow you. You were their best friend for exactly 12 hours until you reciprocated that follow back and then they wanted nothing to do with you. You’re like a one night stand, you fell for their charm, gave them what they wanted and then they tossed you away the next day with the promise never to call again. You’re a fake.
The person who steals your photos. They screen shot your beautiful pictures, that took your precious time to style and shoot and edit, then they steal it and pass it off as their own. They don’t even bother to ask you or tag you or give you credit for it or they do so very discreetly so that people won’t even notice that it is not their photo. It’s STEALING. I don’t come into your house and steal your crap so don’t think it’s okay to steal mine. You’re a thief.
Mostly found in those accounts who have over 1,000 followers, the person that no longer feels the need to say thank you. Didn’t your momma teach you any manners? Someone compliments you or your photo and you pretend like you didn’t even read it, or maybe you don’t read it because you don’t care. They ask you a question and you don’t respond. You aren’t better than everyone else, so take a couple minutes and say thank you. Engagement is good on Instagram and it’s only going to hurt you in the long run. When someone tells you that you have a beautiful smile in person, do you ignore them and walk away? You say thank you! You’re a snob.
The absolute jerk who makes mean or inappropriate comments on people’s photos. A coward who hides behind the safety of their computer screen. The same person who would never have the guts to ever say something to someone’s face. You judge and degrade and ridicule. You’re a bully.
There are support groups everywhere where people try to follow and engage with each other to help them grow their blog and social media accounts. I love them, they are fabulous places to learn and meet new people. But it’s The Liar that tries to ruin it. They throw down their Instagram account link and promise to follow everyone in the group in order to gain more followers themselves. Nothing is wrong with that, a follow for a follow is totally fair. But the liar is sneaky: they don’t follow anyone back. And The Liar is also not very smart because most of these people have apps that show them who is not following them back. You’re a liar.
Probably my least favourite of the bunch and the person that has hurt the most feelings. These people are your “friends”. The ones you have formed connections with over time by engaging with each other’s photos. It does kind of feel like a friendship: you see their kids, read their comments about life, you bond a little, offer support, and then one morning you wake up and they have unfollowed you. I hate to admit it but it really does bother me. You think, “Did I do something to offend you?” No, you didn’t. That person just decided that they needed to be following less people and you were not worthy anymore. What a “friend”.
Where the Hell is your moral compass?
So my question is, why is this okay? Why are we turning a blind eye and shrugging it off? Maybe I should learn to take it less personally? Or maybe I shouldn’t because at least it shows that I still give a damn. I’m sick of being on Instagram and allowing people to treat others this way. So I’m calling them out on it. I’m stirring the pot. Because I’ve learned that in life if you don’t stick up to these people, then they will continue to do it and they will continue to get away with it. We all need to try a little bit harder to treat people better. I teach my children and my students everyday about the act of kindness so I’m going to choose to lead by example and be a role model for them and not a hypocrite. I hope you will too.
To learn how to grow your Instagram the “right” way, check out my previous post Instagram Boot Camp.
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